Parenting is not such a big problem if you mean by this word: help your child help himself, help him learn to live and play with others, carefully explore everything new, deal with his feelings, develop his interests.
This is not easy at all. There is no magic “right way.” The methods you use to discipline or raise your child depend on all those characteristics that make your family different from others. Discipline is not about making your child do what you want. You can’t force your baby to be “good”; of course, some children will stop doing things you don’t like after yelling and spanking you to please them.
Children are most naughty when their parents are constantly busy with their own affairs, are very stressed or are going through difficult times. So it’s important to remember that children usually repeat their parents’ behavior. And being aware of this responsibility, pay attention to how you behave, because children absorb everything like a “sponge.”
The following tips will help you navigate parenting issues.
Praise more instead of punishment.
Babies love to be praised, they love to please. They really want to be noticed. If you encourage their behavior, which you like, the child will try even harder to please you. Hugs, smiles, and showing your parent’s interest in what they are doing are the best rewards and motivation for your child.
Be reasonable in your expectations
Energetic, very agile toddlers just don’t perceive concepts like “be careful”, “be quiet”, “wait”, etc. Give them time to think about what you say, show them by example how to do it, and reinforce the new knowledge by doing the necessary behavior with your child and so you will help your child learn the new behavior.
Use the word “no” when you really need it
The child needs you to set clear boundaries on acceptable behavior. If he can get away with anything, he will be very confused and perplexed; but you must decide what is really important. Your child will learn the rules faster if there aren’t so many of them.
Learn to negotiate with your child.
You can’t make your baby eat, sleep and go to the bathroom exactly when you want him to. You will not achieve obedience, causing more and more conflicts. Understanding how children form the necessary behaviors and being able to negotiate in advance with your child will help you minimize conflicts and build your relationship…
Distract your child or try your own tricks to shift your child’s attention to positive things
It’s usually easy to shift your baby’s attention from something you don’t like to something more enjoyable. Diversion doesn’t mean you’ve “given up,” but it can work wonders.
Be persistent in what’s important.
Threats and nagging won’t get you the results you need. Toddlers quickly learn to ignore the constant stream of phrases like, “If you don’t stop touching the TV, I’ll punish you.”
